Therapy

Talking about your thoughts and feelings with a supportive person makes you feel better. It can be very healing, in and of itself, to voice your worries or talk about something that’s weighing on your mind. And it feels good to be listened to, to know that someone else cares about you and wants to help. It can be very helpful to talk about your problems to close friends and family members. But sometimes, we need help that the people around us aren’t able to provide. When you need extra support, an outside perspective, or some expert guidance, talking to a therapist or counselor can help. While the support of friends and family is important, therapy is different. Therapists are professionally-trained listeners who can help you get to the root of your problems, overcome emotional challenges, and make positive changes in your life.

You don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health problem to benefit from therapy. Many people in therapy seek help for everyday concerns: relationship problems, job stress, or self-doubt, for example. Others turn to therapy during difficult times, such as a divorce.

Focus areas of Therapy:

  • Marital Problems
  • Relationship problems
  • Depression
  • Loneliness
  • Anger
  • Adjustment difficulties
  • Low self-esteem
  • Abuse
  • Grief
  • Childhood problems
  • Social problems
  • Adolescent defiance
  • Family conflicts
  • Lack of purpose
  • Difficulties from your upbringing
  • Traumatic stress reactions
  • Thoughts of suicide
  • Anxiety

 

Family Mediation

If you are married or in a civil partnership and would like to separate, divorce or dissolve your civil partnership, family mediation can help you to make arrangements for any joint property, finance and children. When you come for mediation you will be making your own arrangements that suit you in your unique circumstance. You will decide how to divide your property and finances. You will decide what is best for your children and how you can work as separated parents. The aim of mediation is to reach an agreement which is mutually acceptable to the parties within the broad range of that which a court would be likely to approve.

The family mediation sessions are non-confrontational in nature and progressive. It encourages parties to focus on the future and problem solving strategies rather than the problems of the past. The process is also "child centred" whereby the parties are encouraged to make special provision for the needs of children where the subject parties of such mediations have childcare related issues.

Mediation also includes the following:

  • Drawing up of a parenting plan
  • Division of assets
  • Calculation of maintenance
  • Pension Interests

 

Trauma Incident Reduction

Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. While these feelings are normal, some people have difficulty moving on with their lives. 

Trauma Incident Reduction (TIR) is a simple but highly skilled technique, which has proven to be effective in addressing and resolving most of the symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and other unwanted aftereffects of trauma. People who do not carry a diagnosis of PTSD still suffer from major losses, accidents, injuries and other painful life experiences, and could still benefit significantly from TIR.

 

 

 

 

 

Addiction

Addictions can allow people a temporary escape from their problems, and can develop from many activities; alcohol, drugs, eating, gambling, shopping, sex and use of the internet.

Stigma surrounds the word 'addiction' which is an inability to stop repetitive behaviour in spite of the harmful consequences.

For many their craving or impulse offers a short-term escape from the realities of their life and is often used to deal with depression or anxiety. For most, the long term consequences bring extra guilt and shame which eventually create an increasingly destructive cycle, drawing in family and friends.

Addictions are often associated with activities that initially bring pleasure and release from everyday life and pressures. Chemicals produced in the brain which encourage us to partake in activities and enjoy the 'highs' and 'satisfactions' are usually stimulated by these activities. The human brain uses dopamine, (produced when we fall in love and similar to cocaine) to motivate; and endorphins (what we feel after vigorous exercise and similar to heroin) to reward behaviour.

When life is empty and these chemicals are not naturally present; when we are low or depressed, the tendency to addiction can increase. Stimulation and reward are often ingredients of addiction: drugs, eating, gambling, shopping and sex all produce highs which need to be repeated. The following lows increase the feelings of hopelessness.

A skilled therapist can help an addict to start to understand their emotional needs and face the realities of life with more hope of addressing the underlying problems attached to their addiction.

Services with regards to addiction involves:

  • Assessment 
  • Outpatient treatment
  • Referral to Inpatient treatment facility
  • Family Support and Therapy
  • Aftercare Services

 

Fertility

Fertility challenges can lead to emotional trauma and put strain on a partnership. While fertility treatments in the medical field may be able to help improve the likelihood of conception, entering therapy while undergoing these treatments can be a helpful way to work through grief, anxiety, worry, and other emotions that may be experienced as a result of fertility issues, especially in the event that treatments fail.

Counselling can help you to manage these stresses, and make informed and satisfying decisions. It may help you before, during, and after you undergo medical procedures, like when:

  • You need information about a certain kind of treatment, or information on parenting options and resources.
  • You must make a difficult decision about which path to take, or need to decide what approach is right for you.
  • You feel that your usual ways of coping with stress are not working.
  • Your relationship with important people in your life is being affected.
  • You lose a pregnancy or come to the end of a treatment cycle that did not succeed.
  • You are looking at choices for family building, like using donor sperm or eggs, a surrogate mother, or adoption.
  • You are wondering whether to become a donor or surrogate mother for others.
  • You need to bring closure to your efforts to create a family.

 

Therapy for Teenagers

When teens are going through a rough time, such as family troubles or problems in school, they might feel more supported if they talk to a therapist. 

They may be feeling sad, angry, or overwhelmed by what's been happening — and need help sorting out their feelings, finding solutions to their problems, or just feeling better. 

That's when therapy can help. 

Just a few examples of situations in which therapy can help are when someone:

  • feels sad, depressed, worried, shy, or just stressed out
  • is dieting or overeating for too long or it becomes a problem (eating disorders)
  • cuts, burns, or self-injures
  • is dealing with an attention problem (ADHD) or a learning problem
  • is coping with a chronic illness (such as diabetes or asthma) or a new 
  • diagnosis of a serious problem such as HIV, cancer, or a sexually transmitted disease (STD)
  • is dealing with family changes such as separation and divorce, or family problems such as alcoholism or addiction
  • is trying to cope with a traumatic event, death of a loved one, or worry over world events
  • has a habit he or she would like to get rid of, such as nail biting, hair pulling, smoking, or spending too much money, or getting hooked on medications, drugs, or pills
  • wants to sort out problems like managing anger or coping with peer pressure
  • wants to build self-confidence or figure out ways to make more friends

Some of the goals in therapy include things like:

  • improving self-esteem and gaining confidence
  • figuring out how to make more friends
  • feeling less depressed or less anxious
  • improving grades at school
  • learning to manage anger and frustration
  • making healthier choices (for example, about relationships or eating) and 
  • ending self-defeating behaviours

 

Couples Counselling

A romantic relationship is one of the closest we have as humans. Choosing a partner and staying together through life's twists and turns is rarely simple. When we choose to get married and raise a family together, unsurprisingly this only adds to the complexity. Whether you have the odd tiff, full-blown arguments or you have simply stopped having fun - very few relationships exist conflict-free. When this (one of our most important relationships) begins to falter, our health and happiness often suffers. While for many of us our first instinct is to try and work through problems alone, it can be incredibly useful to seek outside help.

One route you may choose to go down is couples counselling - a form of talk therapy designed for those in a relationship.

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you do the following:

  • Understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
  • Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present.
  • Communicate in a more constructive way.
  • Learn why arguments escalate.
  • Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.
  • Common relationship problems explored.

There are many different concerns that may bring you to couples counselling, ranging from a lack of communication right through to a betrayal or affair. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counselling include:

  • Lack of trust.
  • Betrayal or affair.
  • Jealousy.
  • Lack of communication.
  • Financial issues.
  • Work-related stress.
  • Abusive behaviour.
  • Different sexual needs or other sexual issues.
  • Family conflicts.
  • Different goals and values.
  • Different parenting styles.
  • Controlling behaviour.
  • Life changes.